09/08/18 That Personality Profoundly Influences Behavior

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"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

Book review: Things I wish I'd known before we got Married

Two years after marriage when he suggests that the two of them go rock climbing, she stronglyresists the idea. Not only is she unwilling, she also resists the idea of him going alone or with friends.
She can envision herself being a widow and cannot understand why he would be willing to take sucha risk. On the other hand, he is totally blown away by her response. He wonders what happened toher spirit of adventure. Why is she being such a killjoy?
Because they failed to discover and discuss this personality difference before marriage, they findthemselves embroiled in a conflict that neither of them understands. In reality, they are both simplybeing who they are, an optimist and a pessimist. The problem is neither of them knew who the otherperson was before they got married. The euphoria of the dating experience blinded them to thispersonality difference. Had they discussed this difference before marriage, he would have realizedthat she would never be a rock climber, nor would she ever go skydiving with him. He would alsohave realized that if he chose to do such things, he would do so in the face of great resistance from hiswife.�

This personality difference is likely to create conflicts in the area of money management. Theoptimist will tend to be an adventurous investor, willing to take huge levels of risk with the hope ofpositive results. On the other hand, the pessimist will want to invest in more stable and securemarkets. They will spend sleepless nights if the spouse pulls them into a high-risk investment. And if
the investment goes south, the pessimist will blame the optimist for taking undue risks with theirmoney. The optimist is likely to see the pessimist as being non-supportive of their ideas and thus,blame the spouse for “holding them back” from success.

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