11-07-16

Graced Relationship Recipe will take a more practical form this week by God's grace as we discuss extensively on Faithfulness in Relationships/Courtship.

For example: At What level in the relationship is it appropriate to share our ugly past with our partner?

The above question and many more, received from our people, will receive graced answers this week by God's grace.

Get ready with your contributions as it bless others...

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09-07-16 LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP 5

'I will STAND upon MY WATCH, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to SEE what He will SAY unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved.' Habakkuk 2:1

This week has been a blessing as we received great responses from our followers and friends.

What are the hidden wounds on your way to the altar?

Look before you leap my dear friend.

Conclusively on our subject matter for this week, it is inappropriate to cohabit with an opposite sex living alone as Sola did; no matter the level of his/her spiritual life, blood still flows in that vein. (Some see this as answered prayers as regards marriage)

Accepting proposal on conditional basis such as Act of Gratefulness, is not appropriate. You need to seek divine and godly counsel before your 'YES'. You don't own your life, God owns it.

It is wrong to die in silence especially over unpleasant behaviours you discovered in your partner. Let's check relevant ones:

Have your partner discovered Purpose?

How about closeness to God and His Word, does your partner care?

In Finance decision, who always bear the burden?

Time management, how well do you plan successfully?

Are you safe whenever you alone with your partner, or you always run back to God for forgiveness?

Is your partner accountable or bossy?

How many lives have you taken or offended just to keep you partner happy?

These are just some issues that need to be dealt with before you tie the knot.
Marriage Without standing upon your Watch to hear God CLEARLY ends in Mirage.

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07-07-16 LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP 4

Responses continue to enter till yesterday. I appreciate you all.

Tolulope

Secrecy I know is one of the tools the devil uses to draw a man away from God's plan for his life, when a man gives devil a foothold, he will eventually take a stronghold.... I would advice the sister to open up to counseling unit and tell them everything, from Start to finish.

Ademola

What I know is that foundation of relationship without Christ is bound to fail.

Do not help people with the aim of controlling them or expecting reward from them, help because God puts you in the position to help. Although, perfect help comes from God or else the reward could turn out unpleasant.

Kola thought being helpful to the lady was all needed to assure him of his partner without personal consultation from God.

To the lady she thought to reward of the Kola's kindness is to accept his proposal. When you help anyone, do not expect reward from them, it may come from other person and if someone render help to you, you are expected to be helpful to others and appreciate appropriately.

However, they should go on that fasting and praying with the aim to pray for the forgiveness of their sins not for relationship consultation or for a home not built on the truth of God's word.
God speaks, if they are compatible and meant  for each other, He will tell them and if not, they should go their separate ways.

After reading some comments I smiled. I'm glad, we are not God. I wonder what we would have done to these two people.

"Nevertheless the foundation of God stands sure, having this seal,The Lord knows them that are His. And, Let every one that name the name of Christ depart from iniquity" 2 Timothy 2:19

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06-07-16 LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP 3

" I will stand upon my watch, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to see what he will say unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved."Habakkuk 2:1

Till yesterday, I was still receiving advises for Sola and Kola. Let's check some:

Olaitan
The lady should quit. .. It's a danger zone for her. The guy is a leech, he needs a cook, homemaker and a bed mate - some one that will serve him.

Jaiye
Firstly, they are building their marriage away from the truth, (not telling the church that they stay together) that show that they known its wrong.
Secondly, prayer is the key...this shows that she/he or both of them didn't pray enough or together. They stay together but can't pray together. (What a shame)
I will not say God is revealing things to the woman, he can be his destined husband. A man can change and be right with God before or after marriage. They are getting it wrong because God is not the first in their life and their relationship.
Nice story.
My Advice: the girl should rent her own apartment/or stay with someone (a lady colleague), she should tell the church the truth,
She should pray more and let the Holy spirit lead her.

Joseph
Wisdom is all it takes...

Temitope
Hmmmm
I think it's obvious enough that Kola isn't what and who Sola assumed him to be. Living together wasn't a good idea in the first place,then getting engaged to a man God hasn't told you about is another mistake. Not every good and Godly man is the right man. You need to seek God's face for His Will, irrespective of the lady's /man's characters or qualities. All in the name of sudden and surprising proposals,many ladies have made a mistake of seeing such act as being *romantic* which is not,but it's rather called *being taken advantage of*.
Since it's just introduction, I will advise she moves out (she's earning enough to get an apartment) ,dissolve the relationship and seek God's forgiveness and light on who His Will is for her. Then,if God says it's still Kola,she has a lot to do in praying and seeking counsel on how to put things right,but I doubt if it would be him.😊.

By God's grace, we will still check the responses I got tomorrow and put a final touch to our subject matter by the end of the week.

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05-07-16 LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP

For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Romans 8:6

I'm sincerely encouraged by the responses I got from you all yesterday. Sola is confused, let's read some of the responses:

Olajide
To say that fact, Kola has been pretending to be who is not. There are many reasons why people go to church, some attend church programs not to serve or worship God but for personal reasons. These people tend to behave like a genuine Christians, once  their motive is achieved we will now see who they really are. Kola is now stylishly revealing his true nature to Sola. However, both parties have not actually prayed, they are just led by flesh, if not, Sola should not have said yes in that same night Kola proposed her. Sola has to seek the face of God to know if Kola is the right man for her. In the main time they should stop staying together, reduce communication and seek good counseling from the right people.

Esther wrote:
Out of sight, is out mind.

Biola
Let sola first decide to stay on her own for a while so as to let Kola come back to his senses cos if care is not taken, I smell danger around her....
Shalom.

Damilola also wrote:
Can a man carry fire in his bosom and not be burnt. No matter how tongue talking you are, its blood that is flowing in your veins and not zobo(Nigeria local drink). So they should stop living together. And Sola should pray very well if Kola is her husband. It's true the guy helped her but that doesn't mean he's her husband...

I still have some intriguing replies I will post tomorrow by God's grace.
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP!

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04-07-16 LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP

For which of you, intending to build a tower, sits not down first, and counts the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? Luke 14:28

Kola, a decent man, was a saving grace for Sola when she needed an accommodation after her youth service in Abuja. They met at the church she joined after her service year.

Kola has a three-bedroom flat apartment closer to Sola's new office where she was retained after her youth service. She wouldn't let go of the job due to the economic situation of the country.

She moved in with Kola who gave her a room in his apartment. Kola is also a godly, caring and disciplined man. He has a good job and also a protocol officer in his church.

They were living fine as flat-mates with no emotional string attached; although none of them is engaged.

Kola buys the foodstuffs while Sola does the cooking and buys other minor expenses necessary in the house.
After a year of staying together, Sola decided to move to her own self-contain apartment which she just rented outside Kola's knowledge.

The day she was to inform Kola, he came home with a surprise.
He proposed to her and she got engaged that night. Kola gave out her accommodation to someone else, refunded Sola's money and insisted they continue to live together so that they could plan their wedding together.

Few months later, Sola was promoted and her salary scale increased which she sees as a confirmation to her answered prayers coupled with other signs such as their name, 'SOLA AND KOLA', compatibility of staying together without committing sexual sin and many others.
After their family introduction, some things started unfolding, Kola stopped buying foodstuffs and turned the responsibility to Sola. Physical touches started in the house and Sola kept wondering what has gotten into him. He returns late from work and have limited time with Sola in the name of being busy at work.
Sola does all the planning alone, Kola easily dozes when its time to discuss their plan.
They've started their marriage counseling session in church, although they did not inform the church that they are staying together.
One night, he tried to rape her but apologized the following day of not knowing what got into him. They started praying and fasting together towards their home but Sola is now afraid.

Please advise them.

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01-07-16 DIG DEEP

And he looked up, and said, I see men as trees, walking. Mark 8:24

Contribution 1

Hi ANNIE!
From my point of view Praise was impatient, he should have completed the fast and prayer.
Secondly,he interpreted the dream based on his expectation at the  moment!
Sometimes dreams come based on anxiety and if not careful spiritually it can serve as avenue 4 demonic manipulation.

Finally,i think he came too desperate,for Silvia not to open up that she has fiance till he proposed probably she thought he won't propose.....On d other hand,a month is too short to know the vital part of who a person is/a person...esp someone you intend to marry....His thoughts/strange desire misled him not God!
Mark 8:25 explains digging deep more and not just scratching d surface.
"Not all eyes that look see"
Thanks for the privilege to contribute and for your consistency.

Olamide

Contribution 2
The fact that God show him Silvia doesn't mean that is his wife. Maybe God wants to tell him other things about that sister. He should have waited till the seventh day.

Oluwadamilola

Contribution 3

Why not wait till the 7th day?????

Abiola

CONCLUSIVELY

Whatever light you receive towards anyone is like a potential gold that must be tested with fire, it needs enough heat, and more time to show forth it's true identity.
It's also like a seed that needs to be nursed, planted, watered, manured and harvested before conclusion is reached.

#It is very wrong to conclude or propose after receiving a light towards someone.#

Jesus puts His hand on the blind man the second time for clarity and restoration.
DIG DEEP into the mind of God before you take any further step and seek godly counsel.

Annie Cares
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