30-06-16 DIG DEEP

And he looked up, and said, I see men as trees, walking Mark 8:24

It's another day.  I love us to start this topic with this story:

Praise is a disciplined young man who had no intimate girlfriend during his secondary and University days. He prays for a good wife and not a girl friend, which is cool. He became serious about marital life two months of his resumption into his new office as a branch manager of a reputable organization in Ghana.

He formerly believed ladies are distraction of purpose until he read a book titled  'Preparing for marriage not in marriage'.
He took it upon himself to seek God's face by fasting and praying earnestly to know the right woman for seven days. On the fifth day of his fasting, he dreamt and saw Silvia, his colleague in the University smiling at him during a conversation. He woke up and smiled.
On getting to the office, he checked his whatsapp messages and received greetings from a strange number. He checked the number's display picture; Lo and behold, it was Silvia. Something leaped in him, he has strange desires for her and called her immediately. That marks the end of his seven days fasting and prayers. 
They were together for a month as close friends. He loved Silvia, then proposed to her. To his surprise, she rejected the proposal on the note that Praise barely knew her; Her fiance traveled out of the country recently with their two year old son, and she will be joining them very soon. She is just whiling away her time with Praise till she travels.
He nearly ran mad and blamed God for misleading him.

Send your comments and we discuss this matter of DIG DEEP tomorrow by God's grace, using this fictional story as a reference point.

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29-06-16 UPDATED KNOWLEDGE

Talk no more so exceeding proudly; let not arrogancy come out of your mouth: for the LORD is a God of KNOWLEDGE, and by him actions are weighed. 1 Samuel 2:3

We started our discussion on knowledge yesterday. Why knowledge?

God is a God of knowledge.
The fear of the Lord is Knowledge;
Knowledge increases strength;
Knowledge gives Power;
Knowledge preserves.

We need updated knowledge of the mind of God about our partner, home, job and ministry.

Ignorance makes a man act in foolishness. Foolishness entices a man to defile his woman before marriage; motivates a lady to pack into his fiance house in the name of espousal; wears a ring on a lady's finger in the name of proposal and still flirt around.

Friend, your engagement is not just about the ring on the finger; not about him taking you to the best restaurant in the world to propose; its a decision from your heart. It doesn't stop both of you from misbehaving of you lack true knowledge about that ring and many other things like your purpose together.
We see different women with engagement rings caught in sexual immorality during NYSC Orientation Camping (A journey of few days). The ring lost its value and purpose.

The greatest informant is the Holy Spirit, He gives revelation of BEST KNOWLEDGE from the WORD of God and godly materials.

Fear God, it is true knowledge.

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28-06-16 UPDATE

In the first year of his reign I Daniel understood by books the number of the years...Daniel 9:2a

Knowledge is Power.
Wisdom is the right Application of Knowledge.
Knowledge is essential in our daily decisions and ramifications of  life.

True Knowledge is loaded in the Word of God but it is unfortunate that not many of us always study to show ourselves approve. 

You need to UPDATE yourself with the word of God and books written by Ministers of God so as to get Knowledge.

Daniel understood many things by books and he was able to apply wisdom aright.
With True knowledge, you will know what to do when challenges come  in your relationships.

As a youth or single,  how many books have you read on home and successful marriages? As a man, what can you say about a virtuous women? As a woman, is it only Love, care and Spirituality you need in your man?

Get Knowledge!  Be Updated!

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27/06/16. GRACE 3

What shall we say then? SHALL WE CONTINUE IN SIN, THAT GRACE MAY ABOUND? GOD FORBID. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein. Romans 6:1-2

As long as we know the truth and we are determined to abide in it,  we can be rest assured of peace.

Yesterday, we were informed to Work hard with the knowledge of sexual purity we possess; not boast but raise disciples as Paul did.

Another challenge is that many of us abuse the grace God upon us, by falling and rising in sexual immorality with our partner,  and claiming to hide under the canopy of Grace.

Intentional sins limits the grace of God upon a man. We can not mock God. Our own wisdom cannot be compared to His own foolishness (He is not a fool). 

Confront your Giant of flesh with the power of fasting and sincere prayer so as not to frustrate the grace of God upon your life.
Remember, we amount to nothing outside His Grace.

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26/06/16 GRACE 2

But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me. 1 Corinthians 15:10

It is very easy to condemn the vulnerable youth and singles. We find it easy to gossip about an executive member of the fellowship who impregnates or was impregnated.

Many of us boast of our knowledge of truth about sexual purity; we are so determined to hold on till marriage, and all these have grown us wings of pride and strengthened us to condemn others.

Paul, the Apostle did not boast of His grace, strength and knowledge. Instead, He laboured with that grace of God upon him and raised disciples for Christ. What are you doing with your knowledge of sexual purity? To condemn, gossip, bless or raise disciples?

If you think you stand, take heed lest you fall. (1 Corinthians 12:10)

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24-06-16 WISDOM PILLS

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. James 3:17

As a man, are you  jealous?
As a lady, are you  selfish in your  Relationship?

Selfishness and Jealousness are not God's kind of wisdom. The above two bring disorderliness and all sorts of foolish actions.

Swallow these wisdom pills:

Be Straightforward, Sincere,
Humble, 
Grateful,
Tender-hearted, 
Lively, and
Observant.

Likewise, Allow discussions; Consider your partner's views and opinions.

Then the PRINCE OF PEACE will take His abode, followed by all great goodies of life.

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24-06-16 WISDOM PILLS

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. James 3:17

As a man, are you  jealous?
As a lady, are you  selfish in your  Relationship?

Selfishness and Jealousness are not God's kind of wisdom. The above two bring disorderliness and all sorts of foolish actions.

Swallow these wisdom pills:

Be Straightforward, Sincere,
Humble, 
Grateful,
Tender-hearted, 
Lively, and
Observant.

Likewise, Allow discussions; Consider your partner's views and opinions.

Then the PRINCE OF PEACE will take His abode, followed by all great goodies of life.

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REMINDER

For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known and come abroad. Luke 8:17

Can I get genuine forgiveness if I reveal my past to my partner? Won't my he/she remind me per time?

Confess your faults to one another.

Hidden Malevolent Secrets are more dangerous than Open Confessed Love.

What is the essence of Love without Trust and Openness?

Some secrets can not be easily revealed without proper counsel due to its repercussions. So, seek godly counsels.

Do you know nothing can be hidden forever? Its just a matter of time before it reveals itself.

Open up to your partner.
Reveal your true self, explain your past deeds no matter what it may bring and be free @ heart (Its the Best Freedom).

Open up, let's see the REAL YOU.
No deceit in GENUINE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Get Wisdom

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25-06-16. THE GRACE

But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway. 1 Corinthians 9:27

Flesh speaks louder than we can imagine if not under the control of the Holy Spirit. As children of God, our flesh war against our spirit frequently.

To persevere, be humble, loving, careful and imbibe other virtues mentioned yesterday and the day before, requires THE GRACE OF GOD.  
Evangelist Paul subjected his body to the control of the Holy Spirit so that he would not miss it.

The fact that you know the right thing to do in your relationship does not make you a hero, possessing THE GRACE of Jesus to do the right thing always through the leadership of His Spirit, makes you perfect.

And He(God) said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness...2 Corinthians 12:9a

What about you?

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22-06-16 HUMILITY

"Wives, SUBMIT yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Husbands, LOVE your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;" Ephesians 5:22,25.

Humility is a fruit of the heart condition. It is the God-kind of Heart. Humility originates from the heart but reflects in the physical. It earned Jesus Christ Divine Glory and is ready to give you a peaceful home.

Naturally, man possesses a seed of pride which needs to be suppressed by an ultimate power of God so that the seed TRUE SUBMISSION AND LOVE can grow.

No matter your status or qualification, you need humility to have a GOD-KIND OF HOME.

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17/06/16 F. O. C. U. S

We thank God for the just concluded series on misconceptions of courtship. Your observations and suggestions are welcome.

If you are confused or you've missed it in your courtship, it is never too late to make corrections; retrace your steps to the Lord and get your foundation right. Your place in the Kingdom matters a lot.

Take these steps:
F: Fix your eyes on God through Jesus

O: Open your heart and believe He can help.

C: Confess all your faults and wrongs.

U: Utter those wrongs out with your mouth cos its necessary.

S: Seek Help from the Word of God.

It's never too late to make wrong right.

For with the heart man believes unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:10

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14/06/16 MISCONCEPTIONS OF COURTSHIP 4

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I thought yesterday's recipe marks the concluding part of Misconception series until I got an enlightenment again this morning. Although, 'Oral Sex' discussed is deeper than I wrote. I'll suggest that we read more on that subject matter.

Another misconception of courtship is 'COHABITING' also known as 'Self-marriage or Trial marriage'.

Cohabitation is an emotional and physical intimate relationship which includes a common living place and which exists without legal or religious sanction.
COHABITING is when two opposite sex reside with one another AS IF married or as a married couple.

This is invoke now in our days, living in the same room in the name of intimacy or wedding preparations.
As I said yesterday, this may not be wrong for some people, but it's FOLLY for a child of the Kingdom.
It is very wrong to cohabit with your fiance in the name of courtship.

Psalm 119:1 says BLESSED ARE THE UNDEFILED IN THE WAY...
Its an appearance of evil and a way that seems right to many but ends in disappointment.
If it's working for others, it doesn't work for you as a child of God. Some parents even approve it in our days especially for those are experiencing delays in marriage.

The standard of God remains sure, you can't tie a man/woman down with your emotions, one day he/she will escape. Get it right.

Beware,  let God help you.
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13/06/16 MISCONCEPTIONS OF COURTSHIP 3

Courtship is not a licence to ORAL SEX.
We've come to the last part of this series.
Hmm, it's a shame today, that even Christians engage in oral sex in the name of espousal.
Oral sex includes kissing, hugging, fondling and caressing each other's bodies and sometimes on the phone.
It is believed in some circles that these acts are not sinful since the REAL ACT is not done.

"What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?" 1 Corinthians 6:19

It may not be wrong for the folly ones but it is very wrong for a child of the Kingdom of God. Why not wait to take permission from God and family before such starts by getting married.

Some build the foundation of their home on this but you should stand out.
It's quite sad that it's very difficult to get 20 virgins among 50 youths (male and female) in our generation. Virginity does not command respect anymore, even among Christians. It calls for concern.

Joseph in a strange land said, 'how can I do this and sin against God?'

Fear God!  Put your flesh under control of the Holy Spirit.

Courtship is not a license to ORAL SEX. Sex is Sex.

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12/06/16 MISCONCEPTIONS OF COURTSHIP 2

The enemy has used this lethal weapon called 'PRE-MARITAL SEX' to negatively affect the homes that are yet to exist, so that he can have a foothold in such homes by the time it is eventually constituted.

Building your home the way the world is building, is dangerous. Dinah went out ONCE with the city ladies and that was all about her destiny.

See, Sex before marriage destroys faster and repositions your mind. It might be fun elsewhere but FOLLY (MADNESS) to a child of God.

Jacob waited for the woman he loved for 14years without sex.
"And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I MAY GO IN UNTO (Have sex with) her." Genesis 29:21.

It can't be love that is driving you in and out of bed in the name of courtship. True Love is PATIENT. (1COR. 13:4)

ARE YOU SURE IT IS THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR THAT MAN/WOMAN THAT IS DRIVING YOU INTO THIS IMMORALITY? COULD IT BE LOVE OR LUST?  If it is love, then you will wait.

Tell your partner, if you love me, you will wait for me.

Till tomorrow, remember :
Courtship is not a visa to PRE-MARITAL sex.

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11-06-16 MISCONCEPTIONS OF COURTSHIP

From today, we will start with the  general wrong notions of espousal among singles 

Though there is need for the two to discuss, share and pray together, yet godly wisdom must be applied by having this openly not ALWAYS behind closed doors.

What kind of vigil will the two of you be having together inside the bedroom of the brother all night?  Even if nothing happens, it is an APPEARANCE OF EVIL. How many people will believe nothing happened? Or you don't care?  

The time of courtship is not the time for careless and aimless visits, which could lead to ungodly behavior towards each other.

Till tomorrow, remember, "We can always prove that we are right, but is the Lord convinced? "
(Proverbs 16:2 TLB)

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05-06-16 RELATIONSHIPS AND MISCONCEPTIONS

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The write up below addresses some misconceptions in relationships especially by ladies.

God bless you as you read.

Deception is to think that a man who loves you won't want to touch you. You hear Christian ladies say "if he loves you, he won't even think of having sex with you as a Christian." The truth is irrespective of a man's status or religious inclinations, once he develops interest in you, the
subject of wanting you is already in the wings, even though it may lie dormant."

A man who loves you will definitely want to have sex with you! In fact, the deeper and more intense the love is, the more he wants to consummate his love for you quickly.

It is both a natural and a supernatural order, once the mind is there, the body naturally follows.
The difference however between the carnal and spiritual man is that, while they both feel and want the same thing, the spiritual man has control over his mind and body and as such won't want to defy or defile you because he has the fear of God.

The natural man has no such control measures and is liable to follow
the direction of his erection which eventually leads to the sin fornication.

So if you have been in that godly relationship for a while and you are both keeping yourselves, don't
assume that he is so spiritual that he can't touch you and won't touch you.

The bottom line is this: don't be gullible to the extent that you believe nothing would happen, even if he can speak in tongues from here to the pacific. Watch out for signs- of absolute self-control and respect for you in the area of sex. I am not talking about you affirming this by saying he has never had an erection near you, in this case you even have to be sure he is not suffering from erectile dysfunction.

In fact, ask him to go and do a test if your church doesn't normally request for it. Is it as serious as that? Yeah, it is very serious. Don't base your findings on the absence of erection, LET IT BE FIRMLY ASSURED BY THE CONDITIONING OF HIS HEART.

Is he a Christian brother? Watch out for the FEAR OF GOD in his life, that's what will keep and save you both.

You can look out for the moment he withdraws his hands and keeps them in his pockets, look
out for the periods his breathing becomes heavy and
he turns away momentarily from you, look out for the times you are supposed to meet and he cancels your meeting, look out for the fear of
God and the restraining ability of the Holy Spirit.

In those moments, help him as you can- in demeanor and comportment, dressing and carriage, words and conversations.

But most importantly, help him on your knees.
Help him approach heaven from your own end, you both need divine strength and grace to overcome the desires of the flesh.

Are you thinking that is much work? actually, the benefit is more of yours than his.

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04-06-16 BUILDING MATERIALS RECAP

From our previous recipes, we discovered that the KNOWLEDGE while building a home is in building material 1 (Word of God).

Knowledge of how to plan; how to be effective and qualify; the relevant things to do, when to do it; steps to takes; standards to follow and so on.

Strength and Grace to do the right thing is derived from material Two(2). These are the two major materials, others are minor.

You may read plenty of marriage/relationship books, attend marriage seminars per time, and still be confused if you raise the minor above the major.

First rely on divine standard for home building while others follow. There are many confusing teachings out there.

Watch and pray
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03-06-16 BUILDING MATERIAL 2

Do you find it easy to doubt your man or woman? Is Trust a difficult factor in your relationship? How strong is your building, based on God factor?

As I mentioned yesterday, trials will come, storms will rage, wind will definitely blow; but will your home stand?
What are your building materials? Gifts and outings alone?

Material 2: 
Jesus told his disciples a parable to teach them that they should always pray and never become discouraged. (Luke 18:1 GNV)

Never get tired of praying. Tell God everything you want for your home, get what He also has for you as the man/woman.
Communicate with the ONE who knows you best.

He is your ALPHA AND OMEGA
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02-06-16 BUILDING MATERIAL 1

There will always be trial and stormy moments for all Homes.

We can call it Test of Foundation or Test of Building Materials.

All marriages even relationships faces this trials.

What material gives a quality foundation?
 
Read these:
Master Jesus was talking one day to His people and He said:

Therefore whosoever HEARS these sayings of mine, and DOETH them, I will liken him unto a WISE man, which BUILT his house upon a ROCK:

And the RAIN descended, and the FLOODS came, and the WINDS blew, and BEAT UPON that HOUSE; and it fell not: for it was FOUNDED upon a ROCK.

And every one that HEARS these sayings of mine, and DOETH them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand.

And the rain descended, and the FLOODS came, and the WINDS blew, and BEAT UPON that HOUSE; and it fell: and great was the fall of it. (Matthew 7:24-27)

Build on Obedience to the Word of God.
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