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"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"
Book review: Things I wish I'd known before we got married
LEARNING THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE
My final suggestion for maintaining good and positive in-law relationship is to learn the primary love language of your in-laws and speak their love language regularly.
When your in-laws feel genuinely loved, it creates positive climate in which to negotiate differences. Nothing communicates love more deeply than speaking the right love language. When families effectively communicates love, they create positive in-law relationship.
Karolyn's father was deceased before we got married. When I finished graduate studies and moved closer to our families, her mother was my cheer leader. Her love language was acts of service. After I painted the house for her, I could do no wrong. My parents are helpful, positive, and never overbearing. I certainly would not have been prepared to deal with in-law conflicts. Karolyn and I never discussed the subject. I realize now how naive we were. The hundreds of couples who have walked through my counseling office have made me realize that we were the exception. Having good in-law relationship normally requires time and effort.
I'm hoping that this chapter will help two of you surface potential areas of conflict with your extended families and to talk about how you will handle these issues. The more thoroughly you do this before marriage, the less likely you are to be blind-sided once you are married.
Wow! End of chapter 10. See you next week as we move to chapter 11(Spirituality is not to be equated with 'going to church.')
I hope we are still together.
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