31/03/18 Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

Talking It Over
1) What do you think is your primary love language? Why?

2) If you are in a relationship, what do you think is the primary love language of your partner?

3) Perhaps you would like to take the love languages quiz found at 5lovelanguages.com

4) Discuss how you think this information will enhance your relationship.

5) You may read The Five Love Languages and discuss it's implications in all your relationships.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
#happyeaster
#Jesusthereasonfortheseason

gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

30/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

How to Find Your Love Language
Third, what do you request most often? If your friend is leaving on a business trip and you say, "Be sure and bring me a surprise," you are indicating that gifts are important to you.
If you say, "Could we take a walk together this evening?" You are requesting quality time.
If you often ask for a back rub, you are revealing physical touch speaks deeply to you.
If you often ask people to do things to help you, acts of service is likely your love language.
When you ask, "Did I do a good job?" You are requesting words of affirmation.

Observe how you often express love and appreciation to others; list your complaints and requests, and you will likely be able to determine your own PRIMARY love language.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
#happyeaster
#Jesuslovesyou

gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

29/03/18 Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

How to Find Your Love Language
Second, what do you complain about? In any human relationship, what is your most complaint?
If you often complain that people don't help you, then acts of service is likely your love language.
If you say to a friend, "We often spend time together," you are requesting quality time.
If your friend goes on a business trip and you say, "You didn't bring me anything?" You are revealing that receiving gifts is your primary love language.
If you say, "I don't think you will ever touch me if I didn't initiate it," you are saying that physical touch is your primary love language.
If you complain, 'I don't ever do anything right;' your complaint indicates that words of affirmation speak deeply to you. The complaints reveal what you most like to receive from other people.

THE LANGUAGE YOU SPEAK IS MOST LIKELY THE LANGUAGE YOU WISH TO RECEIVE.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

28/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

How to Find Your Love Language
Here are three approaches to help you discover your own primary love language.
First, Observe your own Behavior. How do you typically express love and appreciation to other people?
If you are always patting people on the back or giving them hugs, then your primary love language may be physical touch.
If you freely give encouraging words to others, then words of affirmation is likely to be your love language.
If you are a gift giver, then perhaps what you desire is receiving gifts.
If you enjoy having lunch or taking a walk with a friend, then quality time is probably your love language.
If you are always looking for ways to help people, then acts of service may well be your love language.

THE LANGUAGE YOU SPEAK IS MOST LIKELY THE LANGUAGE YOU WISH TO RECEIVE.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

So sorry for the late Post...bear

27/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

LOVE LANGUAGES

QUALITY TIME(Continues): It may also be taking a walk together so long as your purpose is to be with each other, not simply to get exercise. Couples who go to a restaurant and never talk to each other have not spoken the language of quality time. Quality time says, "I am doing this because I want to be with you."

PHYSICAL TOUCH: We have long known emotional power of physical touch. Research indicates that babies who are touched and cuddled fare better emotionally than babies who spend ling periods of time without physical touch. Every culture has appropriate and inappropriate touches between members of opposite sex. Appropriate touch is loving. Inappropriate touch is demeaning. To the person whose primary love language is physical touch, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

26/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

Love Languages
RECEIVING GIFTS: For some people, what makes them feel loved is to receive a gift. The gift communicates, "He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me." The best gifts are those that you know will be appreciated. Listen carefully and you will discover the kind of gift they will appreciate.Better to give a gift that they have requested than to surprise them with a gift they do not desire. Not all gifts are expensive.

QUALITY TIME: It is giving the other your undivided attention. It is not sitting in the sitting room watching television. Someone else has your attention. It is being in the same room with the TV off, the magazine on the table, looking at each other, talking and listening.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

25/03/18 Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

LOVE LANGUAGES:
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: "I really appreciate your washing the car. It looks great. You are the greatest."  "You are so optimistic." "Your smile is contagious."

Your words may focus on the other person's personality or the way they look or something they have done for you or for others. To speak this language, you look for things you admire or appreciate about the person  and you verbally express your admiration. If a person's primary love language is words of affirmation, your words will be like rain falling on dry soil. Nothing will speak more deeply your love than words of affirmation.

ACTS OF SERVICE: For these people, actions speaks louder than words. If you speak words of affirmation to this person such as "I admire you, I appreciate you, I love you;' they will likely think and perhaps say, "if you love me, why don't you do something around the house?" If acts of service is their primary love language, then washing the car, changing the baby's diaper is precisely what makes them feel loved. The key to loving this person is to find out what things they would like for you to do. Then do it consistently.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

24/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED.

By nature we tend to speak our own language. Whatever makes us feel loved is what we do for the other person. But if it is not his/ her language, it will not mean to them what it means to us.
In this illustration, the husband was speaking the language of act of service. Washing the car, helping her around the house. To him, that's the way to express love but her love language was quality time.
She said, "We don't ever talk." What made her feel loved was him giving her his undivided attention talking, sharing life, listening and communicating. He was sincerely expressing love but it was not in her primary love language.
They have made transition from stage one to stage two.

We will start brief summary of 5 love languages tomorrow by God's grace.
Thank you for your time.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

23/03/18. GRACED RELATIONSHIP RECIPE

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED

Everyone has a primary love language. One of the five languages speaks more deeply to us emotionally than the other four. I also discovered that seldom do a husband and wife have the same love language.
By nature we tend to speak our own language. Whatever makes us feel loved is what we do for the other person. Bit if it is not his/her love language, it will not mean to them what it means to us.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

Keep growing in love

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

22/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED

However, for those who make the effort to transition from stage one to stage two, the rewards are astounding.
As a young marriage counselor, I began to discover that WHAT MAKES ONE PERSON FEEL LOVED DOES NOT NECESSARILY MAKE ANOTHER FEEL LOVED; and that when couples come down OFF the IN LOVE emotional high, they often miss each other in their efforts to express love.

The dynamics of these differences are similar to spoken languages. Each of us grows up speaking a language with a dialect. But everyone has a language and a dialect and that is one we understand best. The same is true with love. Everyone has a primary love language.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

Keep basking in love

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

21/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review
THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED

I wish someone had been there to tell me that what I was thinking and feeling was normal; that in fact, there are two stages to romantic love and I had to make the transition.

What I discovered is that the second stage of Romantic love is much more intentional than the first stage.
And Yes, it requires WORK in order to keep emotional love alive.

See you Tomorrow by God's grace.

#proverbs18:22
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

20/03/18. Graced Relationship Recipe

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord"

Book Review
Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

Two stages of Romantic Love
The first stage requires little effort. Stage whereby we are pushed by Euphoric feelings called "being in love".
When we are in love, we freely do things for each other without thought of cost or sacrifice.

The person we love seems to be perfect, at least perfect for us; the rest of the world doesn't matter, we totally focused on being with each other and making each other happy.

This is the first stage.
To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

Thank you for following.

#proverbs18:22
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

19/03/18 Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

WORD COUNT
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."

Book Review

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

"What do you do at marriage seminars?" Jan asked.
"I try to give people practical ideas on how to work on their marriage." I replied.

"Why do you work on marriage? If you love each other, isn't that all that matters?"

I knew she was sincere because that was also my perception before I got married.
There are two stages of Romantic love.

We'll continue from here tomorrow by God's grace.

#proverbs18:22AMP
#anniesentcares
#goodmorning
#bookreview
#garychapman
#knowledgebeforewedding
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

16/03/18 Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

WORD COUNT
"But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day."

BOOK REVIEW
"Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married"

Self-Examining questions from Chapter 1

1) On a scale of 0-10, how strongly do you feel the 'tingles' for the person you are in love with?

2) If the average "life span" of the tingles is 2years, how much longer can you expect to have the euphoric feelings?

3) To what Degree have you explored the more important issues of compatibility in the following areas?

-  intellectual dialogue
-  emotional control
-  social interests
-  spiritual unity
-  common values

Your sincerity shines light on your path - My take.

#proverbs4:18
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory
#bookreview
#garychapman
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

15/03/18 Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

WORD COUNT
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD."

Book Review
Being in love is an emotional and obsessive experience.
However, emotions change and obsessions fade. Research indicates that the average life span of the "in love" obsession is two years. For some it may last a bit longer; for some, a bit less.

Our differences begin to emerge and we often find ourselves arguing with the person whom we once thought to be perfect. We have now discovered for ourselves that being in love is not the foundation for a happy marriage.

Self examining questions on Chapter one will be posted tomorrow by God's grace.

#proverbs18:22
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory
#bookreview
#garychapman
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

14/03/18 Things I Wish I'd Known before We Got Married

"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD."

BOOK REVIEW
Over the past 30years, I have done counseling sessions with hundreds of couples... Why did you get married? ...same response: 'Because we love each other.'
Most say something about deep feeling that they have for each other.

..And I now know that being in love is not a sufficient foundation on which to build a successful marriage.

Often we fail to consider the fact that our social, spiritual and intellectual interests are miles apart. Our goals and values are contradictory, but we are in love.

#proverbs18:22
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#garychapman
#yearofvictory
Visit:
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

13/04/18 Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

Word Count
"And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."

Marriage, between a man and woman, is the foundation of all human societies. Each year, there are over 2million marriages in the US, 4million people saying "I do".
Yet the rate of divorce continue to hover around 50% and the highest percentage of divorce occur within the first 7yrs of marriage.

People do not get married planning to divorce. Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and failure to learn the skills of working together as teammates in an intimate relationship.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace.

#Genesis2:18
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

12/03/18 BOOK REVIEW

"In the first year of his reign I Daniel understood by books the number of the years, whereof the word of the LORD came to Jeremiah the prophet, that he would accomplish seventy years in the desolations of Jerusalem."

Daniel understood by reading...Study to show yourself approved.
We will be reviewing Gary Chapman's book for few weeks, titled 'Things I Wished I'd Known Before We Got Married'

Hint:
'Unless you have spent a great deal of time with in-laws before marriage, you may be blindsided by your expectations.'

#Daniel9:2
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#bookreview
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

09/03/18 ATTAINABLE RELATIONSHIP

Song
God is able to do,
Just what He says He will do,
He's gonna fulfil every promise to you,
Don't give up on God,
Cos He won't give up on you,
He is able.

Today's Recipe
The only relationship that guarantees all your expectations is the one founded on the Truth-solid rock

WORD COUNT
Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there any thing too hard for me?

#Jeremiah32:27
#reminderofHispromises
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

08/03/18 MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING

WORD COUNT
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:

Today's Recipe
It is better for friends/intending couples/couples to abide and listen from the same source... School of the Spirit, it aids mutual agreement.

#john10:27
#anniesentcares
#goodmorning
#yearofvictory.
Gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

07/03/18 JUST TRUST

WORD COUNT
Some trust in chariots, and some in horses: but we will remember the name of the LORD our God.

TODAY'S RECIPE
Trust not in qualifications, prestige, relations, fame, affluence, beauty even in yourself, while believing God for a friend. Irrespective of how simple it appears.

Please trust God to order your steps.
Biko!

#psalm20:7
#anniesentcares
#goodmorning
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

06/03/18 POWER OF AGREEMENT

WORD COUNT
"Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour of the LORD."

Today's Recipe
A divided home cannot stand. The power and strength of agreement must be looked out for in relationships especially the one leading to marriage.

Gary Chapman writes and I quote, "if you can't agree before marriage, what makes you think you will agree in marriage?"

#proverbs18:22
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

05/03/17 WAIT

WORD COUNT

"The eyes of all wait upon thee; and thou gives them their meat in due season."

TODAY'S RECIPE
You may not know how, you may not know when but he will do it.

Hold on till your change comes, God is ever-faithful.

#psalm145:15
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory

gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

02/03/18 FOUNDATION IS KEEN

WORD COUNT
'If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?'

TODAY'S RECIPE
Foundation is a very important part of anything (not for houses only). Time, resources, knowledge and expertise must invested to make a solid foundation.

I therefore charge you that being in love is not an ADEQUATE FOUNDATION for building a SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. Build a solid foundation with the right knowledge.

Today is daddy Adeboye of RCCG birthday, speak a word of prayer into his life.

#getknowledge
#psalm11:3
#goodmorning
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory
#Godblessdaddyadeboye
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com

1/03/18 THE BEGINNING

WORD COUNT
"Go not forth hastily to strive, lest thou know not what to do in the end thereof, when thy neighbour hath put thee to shame."

TODAY'S RECIPE
First establish a smooth relationship with God who knows the end from the beginning not man who is controlled by what his senses.

The end is very important... Begin with God.

#proverbs25:8
#goodevening
#anniesentcares
#yearofvictory
#happynewmonth
gracedrelationshiprecipe.blogspot.com