12/06/18 That We Needed a Plan for Handling our Money

Word count:
"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

Book review: Things I wish I'd known before we got married

GARY'S STORY
When Karolyn and I were in a relationship and later decided to get married, it never crossed my mind that we needed to discuss we would handle our finances. Neither of us had any money. After all, we both were recent college graduates. During our college we both lived in dormitories. I had never rented an apartment, never paid an electric bill, never had a car payment, and seldom ever bought clothes. I worked part time to pay my college expenses. After my junior year my parents were kind enough to give me a car and pay the insurance. The clothes I wore came as gifts from my family at Christmas and on birthdays.
Karolyn's experience was similar except that before enrolling in college, she worked full-time for one year, he had her own apartment, and paid her own bills.
The only financial plan we had was that she had agreed to work full-time while I pursued graduate studies full-time. That plan lasted two months. Karolyn's job required her to begin work at 5:30am. She is not a "morning person." Her health was sprawling downward, and we both agreed that this plan was not working. We both decided that we would both look for part time, afternoon jobs.

To be continued tomorrow by God's grace
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11/05/18. THINK BEFORE YOU LEAP

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... Friends, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Today's Recipe
No act of sexual immorality is inexplicably.

Think of what you will lose than the pleasure of few seconds spent.

Think before you leap.

Book review continues later, bear with us.
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07/06/18 That Toilets are not Self-cleaning

Word count:
"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

Book review: Things I wish I'd known before we got married

A PRACTICAL EXERCISE
If you are seriously contemplating marriage, make a list of the things that come to mind that will be done in order to maintain a household. Make two copies of the list and put your initials beside those that will be your major, minor and combined responsibility. Once completed, set an evening to discuss to discuss the list; where you have disagreements calls for negotiation. Share with each other your reasons for the choice you made.

Be as honest and open as possible.
After listening to each other empathically, then seek to make an agreement on who will take up the responsibility. (If you can't agree before the marriage, what makes you think you will agree after marriage?)

Completing this task does not mean you are locked into those responsibilities for the rest of your life. Six months after marriage, you may renegotiate those things. But it does mean that you will enter marriage with better understanding of expectations of each other. Completing these exercises and reaching agreement on who will do what will save your many conflicts and make life flow much harmoniously for both of you.

We've come to the end of Chapter 7: That Toilets Are Not Self Cleaning

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06/06/18 THAT TOILET ARE NOT SELF-CLEANING

Word count:
"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

Book review: Things I wish I'd known before we got married

Likes and Dislikes

The fourth factor in finding agreement about who will do what, is the simple fact that each of you has likes and dislikes.
She may find budgeting and keeping track of finances to be a breeze, where he may find it to be an ordeal. They both have the skills to add, subtract and keep records, but one of them likes to do it and the other does not.

Making sure that each other's likes and dislikes is an important step in the process of deciding marital roles. Ideally, it would be nice to have each of you doing things that you enjoy doing. But if neither of you enjoys doing it, obviously someone must accept responsibility for a task that is not necessarily pleasant.

However, considering each other's likes and dislikes should be a part of the process in deciding who will do what.

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05/06/18 That Toilet are not Self-cleaning

Word count:
"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

Book review: Things I wish I'd known before we got married

WHAT ARE EACH OF YOU GOOD AT?
This brings me to the third factor which influence your opinion on who should do what, and that is the reality that both of you have different skills. When it comes to food preparation, one of you may be skilled at shopping for the best deals while the other may simply buy whatever is necessary to prepare the meal. One knows how to dust furniture and the other can't see dust. One is a computer whiz and the other simply knows how to send emails.

We need to have the same skills sets, but it is important to recognize these different abilities and seek to use them for the benefit of the relationship. On a football team, all eleven players have the same objective but they don't all play the same role. The coach (should be God/His Word) seeks to put the players in the position that he thinks they are best equipped to execute. That principle should also be helpful in determining Marital roles.

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04/05/18 SEXUAL PURITY IS NOT AN OPTION

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"One final word, friends. We ask you— urge is more like it—that you keep on doing what we told you to do to please God, not in a dogged religious plod, but in a living... You know the guidelines we laid out for you from the Master Jesus."

God wants you to live a pure life. Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity.

Sexual purity is the will of God not an option, obey it.

1 Thessalonians 4:1‭-‬3MSG
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01/06/18 THAT TOILETS ARE NOT SELF-CLEANING

Word count:
"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

Book review: Things I wish I'd known before we got married

WHERE DO THESE IDEAS COME FROM?
A second influence upon your perception of marital roles is your own philosophy about maleness and femaleness. Your own philosophy answers the question, "What does a man do and what does a woman do in marriage relationship?"

Your answers to this question has been greatly influenced by your educational experience. For example, if she attended a university where she was exposed to strong feminist professors, then she will likely have very strong opinions about what women do and don't do in a marriage relationship. On the other hand, if she attended a conservative religious university, she will likely have very different ideas as to the roles of a woman in marriage.
To ignore these strongly held philosophies or to think that your love will override their influence is foolish. If you cannot negotiate these differences before marriage, they will greatly inhibit your ability to develop marital unity.

Your philosophy of maleness and femaleness greatly influence your expectations of marital roles. Discuss them instead of practicing frivolities during courtship.

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